There are times when we all feel alone and unloved. These are universal emotions shared by us all. They aren’t the most pleasant feelings in the world, by far, are they? I’m sure you’ve heard the old adage “you have to love yourself before someone else can love you.” I know what you’re thinking, it’s little more than a psychological myth, right?
Well, that’s not completely true. There’s much more to it under the surface than that, actually. Are you ready to find out why you must love yourself unconditionally, before being able to truly be happy in your own skin?
We seek what is missing in our life
It’s easy to seek happiness, but much harder to achieve it, isn’t it? We, as humans, instinctively search for what is missing in our lives.
This even rings true for our selection of a potential friend or mate. If we’re missing something, we look for it in others. This happens on a much more subconscious level than most of us realise. We seek those who are happy, outgoing and positive. In doing so, we hope that it will rub off on us.
The very people we become friends with, or the people we enter into a relationship with, are a direct reflection of ourselves – or rather, a direct reflection of the person we wish to be. In essence, when we see others happy, we instinctively want to be happy ourselves. And that’s understandable – and, possible!
Why is it so hard to love ourselves?
We live in a developed society that’s technologically amazing, don’t we? We have computers, smartphones, televisions and half-a-dozen gizmos and gadgets that we carry around with us just about everywhere we go. It’s not always a good thing, though.
We’re taught that our very status can be revealed through these very aspects of our daily live. The amount of money we have, the amount of material possessions we have. We cling to the success of relationships or the allure of youth. It’s all about achieving that power and status in the hope that it’ll make us happy.
That simply isn’t true, though. These things are not the measure of the man. They’re immaterial things. They’re irrelevant to your happiness. Ask yourself, how can a person living in a third world truly be happy, otherwise?
How do we truly love ourselves, though?
This is a tough question for most people and can seem like a truly daunting task. It doesn’t necessarily have to be, though. To start, the first thing you should do is forgive yourself. Let go of the resent and negative thoughts. Understand that you’re not perfect – no one is, no matter how much they may look the part. If you continue holding in the pain, you’ll never be truly happy.
Live in the moment. This can’t be recommended enough. It’s one of the most important aspects to living a healthy and positive life. Don’t think about the bad. Don’t assume that everything is going to end negatively. Simply, live in and for the moment in time. Enjoy it, relish it. Life’s short and it’s not worth wallowing in self-pity.
Don’t seek your happiness from a relationship. This can’t be expressed enough. You must learn to understand that your happiness doesn’t come from someone else – it comes from within. If you have a low self-image, it’s time to work on it. Join activity groups for people with similar interests and start interacting with the world at large.
If you’re worried about weight, start exercising and eating healthy. It’s a small change to make for happiness, isn’t it? You need to truly understand the potential you have within. By doing so, you’ll begin to have a more positive outlook on life – and yourself.
It’s incredibly important to be honest emotionally. It doesn’t matter if it’s with friends, family or a girlfriend or wife. You need to express your thoughts when they arise. Don’t contain them – let them out. Furthermore, express them to yourself.
Work on a level of acceptance of what and who you are right now. Be very much in the present – yesterday is gone and yes you can learn from that, but no need to live there anymore. The future is unwritten, but it is indeed the very present moment that you need to truly embrace. In this moment can I be the happiest that I possibly can. Am I my true authentic self.
Reward yourself along the way. Gift yourself with small pleasures. We all can do this in own ways; spend time in a bookstore, attend a concert, spend time doing something that all is about you. Enrich the moments, one by one increases the positive vibration of ones life.
By loving yourself, you’ll be happier and healthier – leading to success!
Chinese philosopher Laozi said that “a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” This is, of course completely true. You should never assume that by changing one thing in your life that the rest will not sort itself out.
Don’t tackle the biggest problems in your life first. Take on the smaller goals you have first. By doing so, you’ll provide yourself with an uplifting boost. This, can provide us with the courage we need to challenge ourselves further.
During these times, many people choose to have a psychic reading to explore the underlying causes. There are a whole host of qualified professional psychics available on this very website to offer you guidance and insight. You can discuss all problems and issues and gain assistance in helping you back onto the path to recovery.
You must understand that it takes time and that you should be patient. It isn’t going to be an overnight transformation – but you will get there. It’s truly up to you whether you see the cup as half empty, or half full. Always seek the silver lining in everything. Always.